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I just had to smile when one of our pastors at our church spoke on this topic today. (Mark 10)
My contribution to this MM topic:
Is it ever right to worship another God? Is it ever right to serve idols? Is it ever right not to rest on the Sabbath? Is it ever right to lie? Is it ever right to kill? Is it ever right to use God's name in a curse? Is it ever right to dishonor my parents? Is it ever right to lust after my neighbors spouse? Is it ever right to be jealous of what my neighbor owns? Is it ever right to covet?
"Is divorce ever right?"
It's a sad reality - that some find themselves in a situation where daily living can be harmful to their well-being and or their children. Even worse to have that in a place that should be a sanctuary from our hurting world - marriage. In these situations, I think that it's not right to divorce - but it is very necessary.
If divorce can be avoided, divorce should be avoided.
While I've been watering my houseplants that have gone without water too long they remind me of hearts that are hard, and cold and unmoving. How they got there could be an answer to how the troubles can be fixed. Just like my houseplant that has not been watered and now it's soil is hard and resistant to life-giving watering's, with tender loving care the soil can be softened by small and frequent watering's so that the roots of the plant can again absorb the life-giving liquid. At first, the soil resists the watering's and the water runs over, around the soil and out the bottom of the container. If the watering's stop at that point then the plant continues to die. But if I go repeatedly to pour in a little water and then let it sit at the top of the soil, soon it begins to soften and soak in. It's the same with most cold and seemingly lost relationships.
Gentle, frequent attention would do a lot for a dying marriage.